Honor Killings Simply Domestic Violence?

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Are Honor Killings Simply Domestic Violence?
On February 12, 2009, Muzzammil Hassan informed police that he had
beheaded his wife. Hassan had emigrated to the United States 30 years ago and,
after a successful banking career, had founded Bridges TV, a Muslim-interest
network which aims, according to its website, "to foster a greater
understanding among many cultures and diverse populations." Erie County
District Attorney Frank A. Sedita III told
The Buffalo News that
"this is the worst form of domestic violence possible,"
While Muslim
advocacy organizations argue that honor killings are a misnomer stigmatizing
Muslims for what is simply domestic violence, a problem that has nothing to do
with religion, Phyllis Chesler, who just completed a study of more than 50
instances of North American honor killings, says the evidence suggest
otherwise. — The Editors
Amina Said (L), 18, and her sister Sarah, 17, were
shot dead by their father Yaser at their home in Irving, Texas,
in January 2008
Domestic violence is a significant problem in the United States. Between 1989 and 2004, 21,124 women died at the hands of an intimate; 8,997 men died in domestic violence during the same time period.[13] Because the U.S. Department of Justice does not catalogue the victim's or murderer's age, religion, ethnic background, or immigration status, it is not possible to know what proportion of these killings are honor-related.

Swine Flu Epidemic on our Minds

Everyone wants to keep up with the latest news about the Swine Flu...

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Rodney Atkins - It's America

We all could use a little inspiration...so heres some feel good music by Rodney Atkins. Come on America Sing it!!!!

Cyberbullying Kills

The deaths of teens by suicide because of cyberbullying leads to drastic measures to get the word out, inform, recruit and convict.

Learn the dangers of online activities...your child's life is at stake.

Sweet Home Alabama Guitar + Solo

Sweet Home Alabama!! Lynyrd Skynyrd, brilliant song.

This kid is awesome...this is what he says...

Ive been playing for 2 just over 2 years and using an:

Epiphone les Paul custom,
Laney 30w,
zoom Gfx3 effects pedal

Creed - With Arms Wide Open

Well I just heard the news today
Seems my life is gonna change
I close my eyes, begin to pray
Then tears of joy stream down my face

With arms wide open
Under the sunlight
Welcome to this place
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open

With arms wide open

Well I don't know if I'm ready
To be the man I have to be
I take a breath, I take her by my side
We stand in awe, we've created life

With arms wide open
Under the sunlight
Welcome to this place
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open
Now everything has changed
I'll show you love
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open

With arms wide open
I'll show you everything oh yeah
With arms wide open

If I had just one wish only one demand
I hope he's not like me I hope he understands
That he can take this life and hold it by the hand
And he can greet the world with arms wide open

With arms wide open
Under the sunlight
Welcome to this place
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open
Now everything has changed
I'll show you love
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open

With arms wide open
I'll show you everything oh yeah
With arms wide open

Patient Involvement

The more questions you ask the better informed you are to your own personal health and well being.

Brain Tumor Babble...

This may seem a little odd but has anyone else ever prayed...
"God, can we stop right here and maybe start over, from the beginning?" cause, " I think I've missed something on the way here "... maybe a lesson or a hint, anything that would help me, to find out " what the hell I'm doing here "...
I have no idea why I'm here, no clue. " Have I done anything worthwhile yet? " ..." Will I be doing anything worthwhile in the near future? " And "why do I want it so bad? "
It must be important or I wouldn't be obsessing so much about it...or where to find it or how to get it...
"Lord, just get me through this post and I think I'll be alright.."

"I must have a purpose, you helped me to survived a brain tumor "...and " I promised you that I would give you all the credit and I have " ....Maybe all the blogs I've written, to give people information on the Meningioma (brain tumor), is my purpose. "
If that's so, I'm doing your will and my purpose is to keep writing, so others will seek out competent doctors, who will help them.
I have been editing this post as best I can, hoping to make things a little more clear for anyone who is interested. Below is my personal story that I gladly tell because I am a survivor of a brain tumor.

While searching for what was causing unusual and bewildering physical and mental symptoms, doctors where too quick to blame them on life's problems and seemed eager to prescribe antidepressants. I was frustrated with myself and my doctors, and after awhile gave up on finding the answers to my problems...for "two years."
I tried to except the fact that it was all due to stress. In an eerie way I still felt that something more than stress was going on. I have always had headaches since I was young, mostly from not eating when I should have.

But now, I would get a headache in the middle of the night while I was asleep. The pain would wake me up more and more as time passed, I thought my head would explode from the pressure.I was popping aspirin every 3 or 4 hours.
I also took antidepressants, prescribed for anxiety and depression. It was hard to focus on ordinary everyday things when the symptoms ruled so much of my life. It's no wonder everyone thought I was a hypochondriac, no one said that to my face, but I could tell what they were thinking. I tried to keep from showing all the other things that would creep up now and then. Like when I lost my balance kneeling in the garden one day,actually falling over to one side. Feeling dizzy and light headed I got up to go back in the house, but I couldn't walk a straight line. All I could think of at that time was how the neighbors would probably think I was drunk. This didn't happen every day, sometimes I would accidentally run into furniture or a wall, I remember thinking to myself how stupid of me. You see now, I was blaming myself for not having any control over my body.

To me all these symptoms where not related, so when I did go to the doctor it would be for one symptom, never telling them about the others.Tests ruled out anything that the doctors thought it could be. I had little hope in ever finding out what my problem was. Maybe if I had told them I would have been diagnosed earlier. I guess I was afraid to do that, being told once before it was all in my head. Of course no one ever thought that it could be something life threatening, especially not a brain tumor.

I later found out that the pain I felt in my neck and not being able to turn my head very far to the right or left, was actually caused by a tumor, pressing on my spinal cord .

The growth of the tumor over many years was now the size of a golf ball. My final symptom, not being able to raise my left arm past my shoulder. I tried to explain it all away, mostly to myself, that I had arthritis in my neck and bursitis in my shoulder.... So much for self diagnosis.

I did finally go see a doctor because of my arm, I was tired of not being able to reach for anything in my kitchen cabinets without screaming obscenities.
Since x-rays showed no disease or complications in my shoulder, I was sent for an MRI. This is what finally lead to the discovery and the reason behind so many years of suffering.
A brain tumor pressing on my spinal cord at the base of my skull.

The base of the skull is also called the hindbrain.
The hindbrain sits underneath the back end of the cerebrum, and it consists of the cerebellum, pons, and medulla.

The cerebellum -- also called the "little brain" because it looks like a small version of the cerebrum -- is responsible for balance, movement, and coordination.
[ Do you recognize the relationships to the symptoms I experienced? ]
The pons and the medulla, along with the midbrain, are often called the brain stem. The brain stem takes in, sends out, and coordinates all of the brain's messages. It also controls many of the body's automatic functions, like breathing, heart rate, blood pressure, swallowing, digestion, and blinking.
[ I was also having problems swallowing, along with indigestion.]
Motor neurons carry messages away from the brain and back to the rest of the body. All neurons, however, relay information to each other through a complex electrochemical process, making connections that affect the way we think, learn, move, and behave.
[ I'm sure I wasn't thinking or behaving very well.]
A part of the peripheral nervous system called the autonomic nervous system is responsible for controlling many of the body processes we almost never need to think about, like breathing, digestion, sweating, and shivering.
[ This part tells me why my neurologists said "I could have died in my sleep" ]
Your brain controls your movements, behaviors, thoughts and sensations. Not surprisingly, then, a brain injury can affect many different aspects of your physical and emotional well-being. So think about having a brain tumor, it will surely cause things to go wrong, and it could be any or all of the things mentioned here.

The meningioma, a mostly benign tumor grows very slowly, but they can also have growth spurts. These tumors are not usually discovered till it has grown large enough to cause symptoms. The location of the tumor determines where you will have problems or symptoms, what part of the body it will effect, plus how you are going to feel emotionally and physically.

Benign tumors usually grow in one place and may be curable through surgery if they're located in a place where they can be removed without damaging the normal tissue near the tumor.

My surgery left me with no disabilities and all of the tumor was removed successfully.

However, six months after surgery (during a follow up MRI) they found another small growth.
This one is located in the parietal occipital lobe. I just recently found out that its behind my left eye, and no one has said anything about having it surgically removed. I do know that this area has a lot of blood vessels and nerves, so I doubt that it is operable.

I am going to keep doing ,what I feel, I am meant to do and that is, to inform and bring more awareness to the brain tumor known as the Meningioma.

All about the brain and the nervous system..

Another Meningioma Website

A Little Something

This chair is just one of my contributions to raise money for the Child Advocacy Center in Cumberland County, Fayetteville, NC .

A larger photo can be seen by clicking (here ) go to there web site , but don't forget to hit your back button to return to this page.

I would love to do more to help neglected and abused children, so I am working really hard to be able to have the means for this and many more projects.

I don't want to wither away twiddling my thumbs while innocent women, children, senior citizens or anyone for that matter, who are being used, abused, dissed or discriminated against.

I think most people in this country need to be ashamed of their lack of concern.This is the reason for most of the Organizations we must have in place , in order to help those less fortunate than the rest of us, no matter what our own problems are, there are so many, too many , who suffer needlessly everyday of their lives.

"I don't want to wither away twiddling my thumbs while innocent women, children, senior citizens or anyone for that matter, who are being used, abused, dissed or discriminated against."

Our Military fight for our freedom of this country, who am I to sit back and watch as my family, friends and neighbors struggle to make ends meet ?

We are all accountable for our own actions and reactions, why don't we try to help and make this a better, safer, healthier life for all?

Speak up, say your piece, fight injustice in your own community!
It can be a new beginning for us all...but like the Military, we have to do it together.
None are more hopelessly enslaved, as those who falsely believe they are free....
I don't know who made this quote, but for me, the more I find out about what's going on in the world around me and what's happening here in our county, it makes more sense.

I'm a survivor, but what good is it to survive without freedom? They also say "freedom isn't free"...

Our Military knows all to well about that. Don't think that " they " haven't paid a price for their part in the war against the terrorists and hate mongers, who threaten our lives. The wives and children know, the parents and extended families, all know. The Veterans know, just ask them...

If you're asking yourself why " I " ( a mere nobody ) bother to bring any of this up, it's not like " I " ( a mere nobody ) can do anything about it...then "you" don't need to be reading it.

Maybe I should elaborate (explain) it to you again...

"I don't want to " sit back " and wither away twiddling my thumbs, while innocent women, children, senior citizens or anyone for that matter, who are being used, abused, dissed or discriminated against."
If you think things aren't that bad, then maybe you haven't dug deep enough to the available resources we have," here on the Internet ". Don't just look at what is being said today, educate yourself with our country's history, read what other countries government's are doing to make life better for their people.
You must have heard about the so called " Quality of Life " issues, it's been a very popular topic for most of our politicians....

Merrian Webster Online defines the word "politicians" as a noun

1: a person experienced in the art or science of government; especially : one actively engaged in conducting the business of a government

2: a: a person engaged in party politics as a profession

b: a person primarily interested in political office for selfish or other narrow usually short-sighted reasons

Interesting, right? there's more...

Wikipedia states

a " politician " (from Greek "polis") is an individual who is involved in influencing public decision making through the influence of politics or a person who influences the way a society is governed through an understanding of political power and group dynamics. This includes people who hold decision-making positions in government, and people who seek those positions, whether by means of election, coup d'├ętat, appointment, electoral fraud, conquest, right of inheritance (see also: divine right) or other means.

"Politics are not limited to governance through public office. Political offices may also be held in corporations, and other entities that are governed by self-defined political processes."

Wikipedia's also states a definition...

Considered a politician
* A person who is active in party politics.

* In a state, a member of the executive branch of government, or the office of Head of State, as well as the legislative branch, and regional and local levels of government.

* Any person influencing group opinions in his or her favor can be termed a politician. For example, a worker participating in office politics is a politician, but only so far as the operations of his or her workplace are concerned.

* Some law enforcement officers, such as sheriffs, and many judges who are elected or appointed because of their political views or popularity.

Not considered a politician

* Members of government who serve purely functional roles, such as bureaucrats.

* Members of the judicial branch, law enforcement, and the military are not usually regarded as being politicians since they are generally executing or adjudicating established law and custom.

* Ordinary citizens with the power to vote cannot properly be called politicians even though they can participate in group decision-making. A politician participates in public debate that leads to a group decision being reached, while a voter is simply responding to that debate.

I didn't expect to have to go into too much detail pertaining to government, politicians or big corporations. I mainly wanted to get more people involved with helping to make improvements wherever they can with whatever means they have.

What we do or don't do today will determain what kind of " Quality of Life " our children and grandchildren will have.

We can't fix all the problems overnight, we can't do it all by ourselves. But we " can do something ", and that says a lot....
I guess today, " this was my something ".


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All I want for Christmas is you by Maria Carey

It's Christmas and all I want is you...and you know who you are.

Mariah does a wonderful job on an old Christmas favorite.

more about "All I want for Christmas is you by Ma...", posted with vodpod

Brain Tumor Indications

Most often there are no symptoms in the beginning stage of growth.
Symptoms often mimic other possible conditions, which are ruled out.

Intra cranial pressure may cause a number of problems, which come and go, causing even more confusion to patients and most doctors.

A slow growing brain tumor may take years before it is diagnosed.
Knowing and trusting your own instincts when it comes to your health, is imperative for an early diagnosis.

The location of any brain tumor may impair different parts of the body, which in turn complicates the aspects of a diagnosis. Symptoms of head or eye pain, movement, balance, hearing, vision, weakness in limbs, trouble swallowing, speaking, memory loss or confusion and many, many more problems, may be an indication.

It is possible to have one, two or all of the symptoms mentioned and should alert you to making an appointment to discuss them with your physician. Do not let opinions of doctors in the past to influence you into NOT pursuing another opinion.

Your concerns should be taken seriously, don't be afraid of being labeled as neurotic or delusional.

Find a doctor who will work with you in finding out the true nature of your symptoms. A proper amount of testing may include blood work, x-rays, strength and mobility tests of your arms and legs, eye exams, CT and or MRI scans. The most reliable physician will preferably send you to a specialist such as a neurologist or neurosurgeon.

This information is provided as a guide for Brain Tumor Awareness.
To educate the public about the dangers of the possibility of symptoms which may preclude the diagnosis or the formation of a brain tumor.

Please refer to your own physician for any symptoms related in any form of the articles on this web site. Everyone is different and I claim no personal knowledge of science or medical conditions, your actions are your own when it comes to the acknowledgment of your particular condition.
It should not replace the thorough tests or decisions made by a competent physician or specialist.

For my story please read " What am I doing here ? "